'I demanded a paternity test': Mother makes her teen son's pregnant girlfriend get a paternity test, revealing the girlfriend cheated (again) and her baby isn't the his

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    Human body - TWO TAKES Esr/TwoHotTakes. Posted by u/Icy_Acanthaceae9635 23 hours ago Am I wrong for making my son take a paternity test?
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    Font - This is a mess, and I would appreciate opinions from unbiased people, it was recommended that I post here. I F39 have two kids, M17 and F10. When I was 21 I had a one night stand which resulted in my son Austin, the father, wanting nothing to do with my child. When my son was 3 1 met my husband Mark M38. My son adores my husband and calls him father. Austin met his current girlfriend through Mark's best friend Alan, her father. Macy and Austin have been close since they were young and we
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    Font - Mark and I sat Austin down and explained that we're happy for him but we needed him to know the importance of safe sex whether it was happening or not. He was disgusted but said he understood and we left it at that. For context, my son is what others describe as shy and soft spoken, he's really sensitive and takes harsh comments/actions to heart. We thought everything was fine with him until he came home crying,
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    Font - he eventually told us Macy had cheated on him. I was angry and urged my son to leave, but my husband calmed us both and asked to speak with Austin privately. Essentially he asked Austin what he wanted to do and if he wanted us to stop seeing Macy and her father, Austin said he didn't want that and wanted to work things out with Macy. I was upset but didn't say anything, ever since that happened, I've hated seeing her around. All I think about when I see her is my son distressed and
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    Font - crying his eyes out. I act cordial around her but I don't like her. Around February, Austin came home looking rather upset again so I sat down with him and asked what's going on? I wasn't expecting to hear him say what he said to me "Macy's pregnant." I was furious, I told him I expected better from him. I also said that before anything happened, he needed to do a paternity test. He was angry that I suggested she cheated again, but I didn't like how
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    Font - she was suddenly pregnant. When Mark came home from work, I filled him in and he was equally upset, we all sat down and discussed it. Austin explained that I demanded a paternity test was done, and Mark wasn't happy to hear that. I explained that she's cheated before, she could've cheated again. That led to a huge argument before we all calmed down, I asked if her parents knew.
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    Font - Apparently not, he said she agreed to tell them tonight. And sure enough, about an hour later Mark gets an angry call from Alan demanding that my son marries his daughter, and if Austin refuses he demands that he pay child support and stay out of this kid's life. Of course we were all angry and exhausted, so I said that nothing was happening until a paternity test was done and I wasn't taking the word of a cheating little girl. He blew up at us
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    Font - and it was radio silence after the call, Macy was told she can no longer see Austin outside of school and he took it out on me. A few weeks ago, Alan contacted us and agreed to do a paternity test. I asked why the sudden change but he ignored me, he said he set up the appointment for May 5th. Austin went with Mark, he said he didn't want to be around me. It stung and I won't lie, it made me cry when he said that.
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    Font - Results finally came in a few nights ago and he isn't the father, he was shattered. Instead of apologizing, he screamed that this was my fault and he'd have never known, he hasn't said much to me since. Maybe I was wrong for making him do a paternity test, but I was only looking out for my son. Was I wrong for making him take a paternity test?
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    Font - chablismouth 22 hr. ago edited 21 hr. ago NTA but I get why a 17 year old kid whose pregnant girlfriend cheated on him is acting this way even though it's unfortunate. He's heartbroken and he's being a d to you, but I'd be shocked if he acted rationally tbh. This is one of those times where you're right, but you're not going to get thanked for it....yet. Eventually he'll be happy that he dodged this bullet and didn't become a teen dad, and he'll be glad that someone in his life was behavi
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    Font - PR Hot-Trash-6764 18 hr. ago . My husband's sister is that person. She admitted that she was afraid no one else would be interested in her. She married the guy and has kids with him. He's verbally/emotionally, and probably physically, abusive to her - but now she'll never leave, because kids and she believes she can't get anyone better.
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    Font - Ordinary-Maximum-639 · 16 hr. ago My son is living this right now, feels he needs to stay as she needs him and she has no-one else, even though it is a very toxic situation, mine is 28 though, been off and on with her for 10 years, I try to stay out of it but its hard to watch, he is tormented,
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    Font - Strange-Client-606- 11 hr. ago Like I love chocolate, but I know it's not good for me... 9 3 more replies Reply Share Bumpyroadinbound - 20 hr. ago I'm in this comment, and I don't like it!
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    Font - Gracelandrocks 20 hr. ago Sounds like he's lashing out at OP because he knows he's safe with her. She's his mom and has his best interests at heart. He can't yell at Macy or her father or even his step dad. So OP is the safe choice.
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    Font - PurrpleNeko2022. 16 hr. ago I see myself in this comment. Didn't know why at the time, but now that I'm older I can see why we so fought so much while as a young adult.
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    Font - vaporvendor. 7 hr. ago One day he will realize she was the only one looking out for him. He's latching on to this fantasy that his girlfriend will stop being a cheater, and OP is ruining that fantasy. Cheaters are cheaters. The sooner he can learn the better. The alternative is he sticks with it and he learns the hard way with years of heartbreak and trauma.
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    Font - vengi15 18 hr. ago NTA. As a mom that must have been one of the hardest decisions you've ever had to make. He is only 17. He doesn't know the ramifications of his actions. I want you to take it a day at a time. It's not going to be easy and he's going to keep pushing you away. It can't be easy for him to lose his girlfriend get cheated on and then also realize that his baby wasn't his. I suggest you find someone for him to talk to sooner rather than later. Good luck! OP
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    Rectangle - lilousme9 10 hr. ago My thought exactly! He does not realize the horror his mom has spared him, because this would probably have come up later anyway. You go mom!

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